Comments on: 21st Century children http://www.sarahcarey.ie/2008/04/22/21st-century-children/ An Irish woman's social, political and domestic commentary Tue, 13 Jul 2010 06:34:24 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Sarah http://www.sarahcarey.ie/2008/04/22/21st-century-children/comment-page-1/#comment-264184 Sarah Mon, 28 Apr 2008 18:59:30 +0000 http://www.sarahcarey.ie/?p=1348#comment-264184 I am persuaded, but he says he can't manage. Oh well, I can always get sneaky about it ;-) I am persuaded, but he says he can’t manage. Oh well, I can always get sneaky about it ;-)

]]> By: Zara http://www.sarahcarey.ie/2008/04/22/21st-century-children/comment-page-1/#comment-264170 Zara Mon, 28 Apr 2008 18:15:48 +0000 http://www.sarahcarey.ie/?p=1348#comment-264170 Ah ha, I misunderstood. All the same, in terms of energy depletion, people who have three and four say they are no more difficult than one or two. But yes, staff would be nice. A cook and cleaner would be a godsend. Look after yourself, put your feet up once in a while and let it all go to pot. Ah ha, I misunderstood. All the same, in terms of energy depletion, people who have three and four say they are no more difficult than one or two. But yes, staff would be nice. A cook and cleaner would be a godsend. Look after yourself, put your feet up once in a while and let it all go to pot.

]]> By: Sarah http://www.sarahcarey.ie/2008/04/22/21st-century-children/comment-page-1/#comment-264113 Sarah Mon, 28 Apr 2008 15:01:16 +0000 http://www.sarahcarey.ie/?p=1348#comment-264113 "A fourth child or an extra holiday/SUV/dining out once a month etc." It's not the luxuries, its the energy. I am worn out and cranky. The only thing money brings that I am interested in is staff. “A fourth child or an extra holiday/SUV/dining out once a month etc.”

It’s not the luxuries, its the energy. I am worn out and cranky. The only thing money brings that I am interested in is staff.

]]> By: Andrew Lawlor http://www.sarahcarey.ie/2008/04/22/21st-century-children/comment-page-1/#comment-264042 Andrew Lawlor Mon, 28 Apr 2008 11:21:25 +0000 http://www.sarahcarey.ie/?p=1348#comment-264042 Parenting experts - the devil's spawn. Throw the lot of them of the nearest cliff. There are as many right ways to rear children as there are parents. For the vast majority of parents that I know the right way is the way they are doing it. It may be different to my right way, but it seems to work just fine. Sarah, ask yourself which you want more. A fourth child or an extra holiday/SUV/dining out once a month etc. That is basically the equation you seem to be doing. Don't get me wrong, if you think you would prefer to have a certain lifestyle instad of extra kids that is your choice. It is a choice, however, that people are often conndemned for - accused of putting themselves before the kids etc. Maybe you just want more time and money to lavish on the two or three children you have. The way my wife and I handled it was to just go ahead and have the kids and then give up all the little luixuries so we could pay for their upkeep. Either way is right or wrong depending on which parenting arsehole you listen to. Parenting experts – the devil’s spawn. Throw the lot of them of the nearest cliff. There are as many right ways to rear children as there are parents. For the vast majority of parents that I know the right way is the way they are doing it. It may be different to my right way, but it seems to work just fine.

Sarah, ask yourself which you want more. A fourth child or an extra holiday/SUV/dining out once a month etc. That is basically the equation you seem to be doing. Don’t get me wrong, if you think you would prefer to have a certain lifestyle instad of extra kids that is your choice. It is a choice, however, that people are often conndemned for – accused of putting themselves before the kids etc. Maybe you just want more time and money to lavish on the two or three children you have. The way my wife and I handled it was to just go ahead and have the kids and then give up all the little luixuries so we could pay for their upkeep. Either way is right or wrong depending on which parenting arsehole you listen to.

]]> By: Martha http://www.sarahcarey.ie/2008/04/22/21st-century-children/comment-page-1/#comment-263644 Martha Sun, 27 Apr 2008 21:18:17 +0000 http://www.sarahcarey.ie/?p=1348#comment-263644 Sarah said: "I am clear and determined I am brilliant, but when it comes to my children I am determined about 20% of the time." That just about sums up our (Ireland's, that is) cultural attitiude towards children. As if children only need 20% of their parents' care and attention! Sarah said: “I am clear and determined I am brilliant, but when it comes to my children I am determined about 20% of the time.”

That just about sums up our (Ireland’s, that is) cultural attitiude towards children. As if children only need 20% of their parents’ care and attention!

]]> By: Zara http://www.sarahcarey.ie/2008/04/22/21st-century-children/comment-page-1/#comment-262153 Zara Fri, 25 Apr 2008 21:22:53 +0000 http://www.sarahcarey.ie/?p=1348#comment-262153 Just go for it Sarah. Have number 3 and number 4 as well. You'll be fine. In our parents' day, four was an average-sized family and they weren't rolling in it. To hell with waiting for the lotto win. And who needs a nanny to run off with the hubby! Just go for it Sarah. Have number 3 and number 4 as well. You’ll be fine. In our parents’ day, four was an average-sized family and they weren’t rolling in it. To hell with waiting for the lotto win. And who needs a nanny to run off with the hubby!

]]> By: Pete http://www.sarahcarey.ie/2008/04/22/21st-century-children/comment-page-1/#comment-261789 Pete Fri, 25 Apr 2008 10:17:39 +0000 http://www.sarahcarey.ie/?p=1348#comment-261789 >go with the Turkey Baster. >You'll find the man without pressure then. Why not just adopt the "turn up naked, bring beer" approach to dating? Getting men to have sex with you is not complicated. They may still be messers, but it'll be more fun than a turkey baster. Probably. Messer or not, I'd suggest making sure that he's rich. Based on DNA tests, you would probably be able to sue him for child maintainence. Be warned, the life of a single mother is not something to take on lightly. To practice, try keeping a few goats in your house for a month. (2 goats = one child, tying them up not allowed). >go with the Turkey Baster.
>You’ll find the man without pressure then.

Why not just adopt the “turn up naked, bring beer” approach to dating? Getting men to have sex with you is not complicated.
They may still be messers, but it’ll be more fun than a turkey baster. Probably.

Messer or not, I’d suggest making sure that he’s rich. Based on DNA tests, you would probably be able to sue him for child maintainence.

Be warned, the life of a single mother is not something to take on lightly. To practice, try keeping a few goats in your house for a month. (2 goats = one child, tying them up not allowed).

]]> By: Liam http://www.sarahcarey.ie/2008/04/22/21st-century-children/comment-page-1/#comment-261772 Liam Fri, 25 Apr 2008 09:55:53 +0000 http://www.sarahcarey.ie/?p=1348#comment-261772 DC - thanks a lot - yes, I do lead a sheltered life but it's a bit clearer now after doing a google search and coming across Malpani's Infertility clinic. More useful trivia, I'm just trying to figure out a way I could bring it up in conversation to demonstrate how worldy and with it I am - thanks DC and Sarah! DC – thanks a lot – yes, I do lead a sheltered life but it’s a bit clearer now after doing a google search and coming across Malpani’s Infertility clinic.

More useful trivia, I’m just trying to figure out a way I could bring it up in conversation to demonstrate how worldy and with it I am – thanks DC and Sarah!

]]> By: Sarah http://www.sarahcarey.ie/2008/04/22/21st-century-children/comment-page-1/#comment-261739 Sarah Fri, 25 Apr 2008 08:45:27 +0000 http://www.sarahcarey.ie/?p=1348#comment-261739 I have this gay friend who is really smart and good looking. Years ago another friend and I said to him, if we never find a husband can we have your sperm? He laughed and was flattered but I don't recall him agreeing :-) :-) Re how many: well, I think you need more when you are old so 4 would be great. But under current circumstances I think one more (ie 3) is the most I could do. Unless I win the Lotto and can hire staff. Then def 4. I have this gay friend who is really smart and good looking. Years ago another friend and I said to him, if we never find a husband can we have your sperm? He laughed and was flattered but I don’t recall him agreeing :-) :-)

Re how many: well, I think you need more when you are old so 4 would be great. But under current circumstances I think one more (ie 3) is the most I could do. Unless I win the Lotto and can hire staff. Then def 4.

]]> By: dc http://www.sarahcarey.ie/2008/04/22/21st-century-children/comment-page-1/#comment-261585 dc Fri, 25 Apr 2008 01:55:42 +0000 http://www.sarahcarey.ie/?p=1348#comment-261585 self insemination, Liam. You do lead a sheltered life :) Just a question Sarah: how many do you want? (children, that is) self insemination, Liam.
You do lead a sheltered life :)

Just a question Sarah: how many do you want? (children, that is)

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