What’s a modern girl to do

By | November 1, 2005

Maureen Dowd in the NYT elaborates on women in the movies. A long article, but here’s a relevant bit. All about how men still want to marry down and women want to marry up.

“Moviemakers these days are more interested in exploring what Steve Martin, in his novel “Shopgirl,” calls the “calm cushion” of romances between unequals. In James Brooks’s movie “Spanglish,” Adam Sandler, playing a sensitive Los Angeles chef, falls for his hot Mexican maid, just as in “Maid in Manhattan,” Ralph Fiennes, playing a sensitive New York pol, falls for the hot Latino maid at his hotel, played by Jennifer Lopez. Sandler’s maid, who cleans up for him without being able to speak English, is presented as the ideal woman, in looks and character. His wife, played by Tea Leoni, is repellent: a jangly, yakking, overachieving, overexercised, unfaithful, shallow she-monster who has just lost her job with a commercial design firm and fears she has lost her identity.

In 2003, we had “Girl With a Pearl Earring,” in which Colin Firth’s Vermeer erotically paints Scarlett Johansson’s Dutch maid, and Richard Curtis’s “Love Actually,” about the attraction of unequals. The witty and sophisticated British prime minister, played by Hugh Grant, falls for the chubby girl who wheels the tea and scones into his office. A businessman married to the substantial Emma Thompson, the sister of the prime minister, falls for his sultry secretary. A novelist played by Colin Firth falls for his maid, who speaks only Portuguese.

Art is imitating life, turning women who seek equality into selfish narcissists and objects of rejection rather than of affection.”

Scary stuff. Is this true? Are men pissed off with challenging wives?

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